Sorry for the condensed version without Scriptural references, this was written off the cuff :)
Who is "email"?
Yes, God can do whatever He wants, but that is not the question. The question is "What did He actually do, according to revelation?" Polishing a mostly self-consistent theology is of trivial significance, especially if granted a few hundred years for refinement. The real issue is testing its consistency with Scripture.
I would encourage you to read our article series on Calvinism:
http://www.insearchoftruth.org/articles ... #calvinism
Each of the tenets you mentioned are addressed in these articles. Also, we have a forums, where several people have discussed this topic in the past:
Some exchanges are more meaty than others, but if this is important to you, I am sure it will not take you long to find the better ones.
If you have a specific questions, please let me know. I would be happy to hear it and study the Bible with you.
BTW, your belief that foreknowledge preceded foreordination is interesting. If God foreknew that which we were to do, does that not imply that we are in control of our actions, God being merely the observer?
May God help us to have a sincere love of truth.